Father's vs Dad's

Any man that procreates is a Father whether you are present or absent in the child's life. But it takes a real man to be a Dad.



I was talking with a friend and we were discussing Fathers day and I was asked "Where is your father?" I said he's present but not present. I wanted to elaborate to the extent of saying that when I see his phone number on caller display I make it go to voicemail. My friend on the other hand has never seen their father, but in some situations I'm not sure who's worst off.



Ironically, the relatives I know best and consider my adoptive parents are his sister's and their husbands and to them I'm forever indebted. My two uncles are father figures or should I say dad figures that have showed me that there still are "Good Men" in this world. These are men that have driven to Buffalo to pick up their stranded niece from the airport when she ill planned her spring break holiday in Miami with 8 of her friends and couldn't get home. Who accepted her with open arms when she was down and out and saw no light at the end of the tunnel and she moved herself into his home without asking- for four years. Who said I was smarter then I thought and signed me up for summer school math because he wasn't accepting a high sixties grade as acceptable and said "I told you so!" when I came home with a ninety-five on my report card. Who when she wanted to go to post secondary school and couldn't afford the monthly payments said we'd pay them for you while you get your education. I'm talking about an excellent chef sharing his tips and secret recipes to prepare me for when I leave the nest. They say "The way to a man's heart is through his belly" and if I plan on touching his heart I need to know how to throw down. My man needs to know that when I cook it's to touch his heart and make his toes curl. LOL!!!



My uncles have been charged with a lot. They have had to accept a child that's not theirs nor their wife's. They have taken their wife's niece and accepted and loved her as if she was their own. These are the only father figures that friends, acquaintances or co-workers know. I may smile like my father, place my index finger on my nose like my father but these are all hereditary traits. I don't know much about him and vice versa. My father could never tell you what my favorite food, colour, tv show, movie or singer is. He could never tell you which school I went to, what sport I played, or who my first boyfriend was and how he broke my heart. My father, is just that I call my uncle's dad's.



If you're a father understand your responsibilities, take pride in your children as they are a gift from God. Ask your self, do I know my child's favorite tv show, colour, friends, or what it's like to stay up all night when they're sick? Instead of being a donor, take the necessary time to commit to get to know the life you helped create. After all, this should be the most important job in your life. You would have helped your child become a loving, well adjusted person who will have a role model to look up to and parenting traits to pass down.



After all, isn't that what being a dad is all about?

Ok, so I want to go to WWW 'Wine, Dine and SHOP in a Dress' on Sunday June 28, 2009 and of course, I have no friends that are able to go with me. With that, I've decided to reach out to other ladies that are in a similar situation and take this opportunity to make new friends.



Check out: iloveWhatWomenWant@blogspot.com for all the delights and information on tickets!

Red Lobster for the seafood lover in You

Today I lunched with my buddy Daniboi! I haven't seen her in what seems like ages. I think I put out an ad on the milk cartoon
LOST: Missing sister from another mother. If found please contact thechroniclesofMotif.blogspot.com.
I heart lunch! Let's do it again, same bat channel, same bat time!

Muah* *LoVe You! xoxo

My Struggle, My Triumph!

I'm starting a series of inspirational stories. Here's my first. Meet Amanda Lane and this is HeR*sTorY:
Well, I struggled with weight my whole life and it's true you need to be mentally, physically and emotionally ready to break any cycle, to kick any addiction. I have tried many different diets in the past including Jenny Craig but failed many times. Finally in March of 2008 I decided to grab the bull by the horns, it was now my time! When I set to start my new life I weighted in at 258lbs. I began with regimen with the aid of Jenny Craig. I learned and adapted to their portion control methods of weight loss. I also learned to how not to lead into temptation and cravings. This is very vital. However, indulging into the occasional 'bad' food makes you sane and not feel deprived. Take out is great! In the first four months of my decision I also started to exercise. I would go to the gym like crazy at minimum 5 days a week. I was motivated and took advantage of that time. I had lost 40lbs in my first 4 months. My motivation my best friends wedding set for July and I was to be her Maid of Honour. But after that first milestone my gym days started to dwindle. I tried to compensate with doing home videos and tried to get at least 3 days a week at the gym. However, my eating habits didn't really change. I was still able to keep with my 6 portion controlled meals per day along with my out of control meals over the weekend. I did have bad weeks like I assume anyone who's tried to kick a habit has, but the most important thing about it is to get back on that horse. And so I did! By January 2009 I had lost in total 62lbs and very proud. Unfortunately, although I had accomplished a remarkable amount of weight loss in January I had also encountered some family situation that had just discouraged me to even go to the gym. I found it next to impossible to return but I never ditched my new eating habits. It's now June 2009 I'm 91lbs healthier and counting. Now the only worries I have is my loose skin. You have to remember that while you are losing your weight it's not just for vanity reasons. I can honestly say that I'm happier, and confident. I'm learning that life consists more then sitting on the couch and eating. I got out of a 6 year relationship which was going now where and although people may say it's due to the new me, I can reply and say I don't believe I was truly happy. My new found confidence has allowed me to meet new people, which I found hard when I was heavier. It has also made me more energetic actually a LOT more energetic! I've realized that I LOVE to SHOP!! Food can become a bad addiction just like drugs. You need to recognize that it can become an enemy and over indulging your kryptonite. Remember time is of the essence, don't rush it. Take it one day at a time. It's hard to over come but once you take that first step and make it over that hill it's a hell of an accomplishment. I did it and so can YOU!!!

I am NOW an ASTONISHING 167lbs!!!!

Hey Mon!!!

My friends refer to me as 'Hey Mon'. I know you remember the skit from In Living Colour the Jamacian family with five, six, seven jobs. Yeah that's me! I'm always on the grind. Like today hard at work. I work harder then hard working!

Product of October

October's own is causing chaos amongst the record labels. Our own homegrown bidding tag about 2 milli! Will he be picked up by Universal the home of Wezzy's Young Money label? Or will it be Jay Z's Warner Bros or even the unnamed label? Only time will tell. He said it himself " I just want to be, I just want to be SUCCESSFUL!!!"

Kudos!

Shock Value?!?!?!

Is it just me or does Halle Berry seem to lip lock with men at awards shows? What was the point of this...groping too? You be the judge? Appropriate or not?

Welcome!

Welcome to The Chronicles of Motif!

This is my first blog and I'm so excited! Join me as I chronicle my life experiences, work experiences, and my social calendar. First, thing on my agenda.....shoes! I have a LOVE for SHOES!!! Heels, wedges, flats, boots and sandals you name it, I love it! Just came back from New York, New York and did some shopping in SOHO. And, yes I did, hit up the ever so fashionably trendy Top Shop. To my excitement they have "Oh so Swexy Shoes" all very drool and closet worthy:



Safari- Voodoo Sandal $145 US